Story is what the mind does to stabilise itself, not what the body needs to reorganise

Our systems want to be seen, to be met

So much of our psyche has been splintered, cut away, shut down, hidden, disallowed. The system reorganises when it is met and accepted.

The Resonance Arc method is built on one single principle:

Our burden and our pain comes from emotional aloneness. At some point, or at many points in life (both child and adulthood), our system had to carry a huge burden, it had to assimilate pain, and it had to do so completely alone.

Healing comes when the parts that struggled, or were created through pain, or were forced to hide, finally have emotional company.

Meaning, insight and story do not change the burden. Company does.

The nervous system changes not because it understands what happened (it cannot), but because the exiled parts are no longer alone in it.

This is the foundational mechanism of the entire modality.

The science beneath it

Your nervous system is constantly organising your experience — protecting you, suppressing pain, managing overwhelm.
When we’ve carried trauma, unmet needs, or relational ruptures, this organisation becomes rigid. We lose access to our full Self. Our nervous sysyem lives on our survival strategies. Many of which are long since obsolete.

The Resonance Arc Method works by meeting the implicit field of your system — not just your thoughts or emotions, but your unspoken protective structures, body patterns, and energetic states.

This approach draws on:

• Neuroscience of attunement: safety and co-regulation come first.

• IFS (Internal Family Systems): our psyche is made of many parts — each with its own history, emotion, and strategy.

• Constellation Field Principles: healing can happen when something true is felt, not just understood.

• Trauma-informed presence: we move at the speed of trust — your system decides what it's ready to show.

• Biofield Science & Dyadic Resonance: we now know the heart and brain emit electromagnetic signals that can be picked up by another nervous system.

2. Attunement
   This is the moment I allow your system to arise through my body, attunement is the bridge between The Ask and The Arc.
   I allow my body to become open and receptive, I sink into gravity. The attunement phase is very short, quiet, and foundational.
   You will likely feel nothing at all and nothing is expected of you here - simply remain still, quiet and prepare for witnessing.
   
   

3. The Arc
   I will describe the state or part that has arrived in terms of emotional feeling, needs, relationship to you, bodily sensation. Whatever arrives is what needs to be here - we will not go searching for exiles, you do not need to find 'the right thing' internally, there is no need to try and anticipate what will come up. The first state comes because your system has organised around its own priority, and that's all we need. The system knows what needs to be met first and it may not be what you think it is.
   Your only job is to witness - with presence, with compassion, and respond in short, honest sentences.
   You don't need to understand, or fix anything. You don't need to be in a 'special state' or 'in self' - just present, grounded and here.
   
   

4. The Return
   There comes a point in the resonance where something shifts, completes, softens or stabilises. There is where enough work has been done for the day.
   I will let you know - "I am stepping out of the resonance now". I will return your system back to you, and be back fully in myself again.
   The field will close cleanly. The Return is a simple boundary restoration.
   
   

5. Orientation
   We will have a brief space to reorient to your current state - how you feel in your body, what feels different. And I will allow for the embodied state to settle.

What to expect in a session

The session moves swiftly through 5 phases:

1. The Ask
   It is your invitation that opens the field and defines the scope of resonance.
   The Ask is the formal beginning of every Resonance Arc session. It is your explicit permission for your system to be contacted through resonance.
   This step is what prevents projection, ensures psychological safety, and keeps the arc anchored to the your internal truth.

   
   You very simply hold an intention in your mind for the session and ask that I resonate for whatever would like to come forward.
   Variations include:

   • “Can you resonate with what feels blocked in me?”

   • “Can you resonate with the state beneath my anxiety?”

   • “Can you resonate with what is happening in my system?”

   • “Can you resonate with the part of me that shuts down in relationships?”

   • “Can you resonate with the place in me that feels lost?”

I will not ask that you elaborate, I won't paraphrase the ask or suggest a change. Whatever you ask is 'correct', and the entry point that you need.

Post session you may notice:

• subtle shifts

• more internal space

• increased clarity

• emotional quiet

• less reactivity

• softening in previously tense areas

• a sense of being more “yourself”

These are simply natural outcomes of relational witnessing.

What kinds of things might "come up"?

The "Protector Arc" is the most common entry point in Resonance Arc work.
Protectors arise first because they are designed to assess danger, regulate exposure, and manage overwhelm. But they aren't obstacles — they are the system’s intelligent safety mechanisms. Protectors hold the system together. They can also be known as our 'survival strategies'.
They:

• assess the safety of the field

• prevent overwhelm

• block premature access to more vulnerable parts

• contain emotional truth until conditions are right

• keep you functioning in daily life
  

The protector is not “in the way.”
It is doing its job.

We don't try to bypass protectors or ask them to stand down, we meet them so they no longer need to guard so tightly. They hope to be met by your relational steadiness.

The "Exile Arc" is the heart of the Resonance Arc work.
It is the moment your system allows a previously unaccompanied emotional truth to surface and be witnessed.
Exiles are not your “inner child,” symbolic fragments, or psychological constructs — in this method, an exile is simply:

A state of emotional reality that has been held alone.

The Exile Arc is the most delicate arc.
Exiles soften through relational presence, not understanding.

The mind wants “why.”
The exile just wants company, connection. Exiles hope to be met by your warm presence.

Sometimes we work with states such as coherence, clarity, groundedness, warmth, and the system’s natural integrative capacities.

This is a "Self-State Arc" and can emerge briefly as the system’s way of showing its own stability. Self-states hope to be met by your recognition.

Why we witness without trying to understand

In this method, the core mechanism of change is simply witnessing from your self.

The protectors need your relational steadiness.

The exiles need your warm presence.

The self-states need recognition.

When the internal system is met without intrusion, it relaxes, and can reorganise. This principle underpins the entire method.

If we try to:

• analyze the arc

• explain what happened

• interpret the part

• discuss origins of the part

• give insight on why the part feels that way

• encourage meaning-making

• give emotional feedback

• link to childhood or previous experiences

• invite narrative or pathology

Then these actions undo the work by pulling you away from your embodied experience and back into cognition.

It also risks reinvigorating protectors or collapsing the exile again.

This can feel extremely unusual and perhaps even challenging, when most therapy modalities are focused on meaning-making and pathologising.

Meaning-making seems benign, even helpful. But meaning-making is a cognitive function, itself a 'part'.

It comes online when:

• protectors want to stabilise emotion

• protectors want to prevent overwhelm

• protectors want to make something rational and easy to metabolise

• protectors want to assign cause

Meaning-making is not clarity.
It is a protector trying to regain control.

Your only job is presence.

Is this for you?

This work may resonate if:

🩶You’ve done talk therapy but still feel stuck or numb

🩶 You struggle to connect with your parts or feel like you’re faking it

🩶 You long for something real, but gentle

🩶You’re ready to meet your inner world without having to explain it

It may not be right if:

⚠️ You are in acute crisis or need regular mental health support
⚠️ You are looking for advice, analysis, performance coaching, or structured strategies

A note on readiness

This work is often most helpful for people who:

• have done some inner work already

• are ready to slow down

• want to meet what’s held inside without pressure to “fix” it

It’s okay if you’re not there yet.
You might be closer than you think.

If you’re unsure whether this is right for you, I’m happy to explore that together in a short conversation.